Perception is significantly more important than reality. Have you wondered why people go broke trying to look rich? It’s because the way you perceive these people is worth more to them than their reality. People are buying designer items they can’t afford, renting cars they can’t buy, taking pictures in movie set private jets, standing next to parked luxury vehicles like they own it… Why? So that you can think of them more like the people who can conveniently afford the same things. (This is why I show up here with receipts, screenshots and proof of purchase ok? 😂)⠀
Example – An IVY league alum, a legacy (someone who comes from several generations of wealth, fortune and fame), someone who’s friends with someone rich and/or famous, someone who dresses really well and someone who drives an AMG. Without knowing them or even speaking to them, you’ve already made assumptions about who they are, correct? Do you know if the Harvard grad is unemployed and carless? No but you have placed that person in high regard because you overheard them talking about Harvard and graduating from Harvard Business School. ⠀⠀
Who a person thinks you are at first is more important than who you actually are. If they don’t perceive you to be worthy of their time and effort, it doesn’t matter if you’re the best person on this planet, it’s not going to go anywhere. ⠀
How was I able to date high value men while I was unemployed, carless and furnitureless? How was I able to make high value friends who introduced me to high society? Well, if you present yourself as someone who has her life together, people will see you as someone who has her life together, and you don’t have to lie about anything. ⠀⠀
The reason I was able to confidently date super wealthy men while I lacked a few things is because I’m a good, confident storyteller. I have taught and continue to teach women ways to change other people’s perceptions of them. With the stories you tell by how you act, look and speak, you can change the perception of how much you’re really worth. This is why I have taught and will continue to teach women how to be fantastic storytellers and change their narrative.
Instead of talking about how you don’t have a car, talk about how you’re thinking of starting your own makeup line. Instead of talking about how you don’t have a job, have a conversation that shows how knowledgeable you are in your field of study. Instead of focusing on your H&M dress, compliment and speak on one designer item the other person is wearing. By confidently focusing on the things you have going for yourself, little to no emphasis is being placed on the things you lack. Instead of seeing you as a woman who is unemployed and carless, you’re seen as someone who is intelligent, ambitious and on her way to success. ⠀
Random train of thought: I used to be more confident when I didn’t have much than I do now. Maybe it’s because I didn’t have anything to lose?
Have the confidence of a Harvard legacy even though your bank account says otherwise.
“If someone perceives something to be true, it is more important than if it is in fact true. This doesn’t mean you should be duplicitous or deceitful, but don’t go out of your way to correct an assumption if it plays to your advantage.” – Unknown. ⠀
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